I want a marriage more beautiful than my wedding / by Ally Willix


Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

I want to cultivate a marriage more beautiful than my wedding day.  I know that this will not happen in the first few months of newlywed adventures, in the hospital as our first child is born, or in the stillness of the house when we become empty nesters.  It will happen throughout our whole lifetime, through all of those moments and memories.  Our marriage will become our legacy, and I want it to be a beautiful one that inspires others and most importantly, points them to Jesus.

“A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.” That simple scripture describes exactly how a marriage will look beautiful. When the Lord, you, and your spouse are in constant communication, inter-woven together, and serving each other, that creates a strength that can not be broken by any man or any thing in this world. 

Recently while I was photographing a wedding, a pastor spoke the truest meaning of marriage I’ve heard in a ceremony.  He said, “Jesus said, ‘For the Son of man did not come to be served but to serve.’ Let us follow His example - in joy, in pain.”  He then charged the couple to make it their goal to help each other become more like Jesus and less like their spouse.  Marriage means hard work and letting go.  Letting go of selfishness and working toward making your spouse the best person they can be. 

The meaning of marriage is the same to me as the meaning of life - to love God with your whole heart and strive to be like Jesus in everything you do.  Marriage is a place to do exactly this, but you get to do it with someone else. With someone who your soul loves and cherishes. With your best friend and partner in life. Two are better than one, and three can not be quickly broken.  When you find this meaning to marriage, your marriage can change lives and the world.  I know I can do with my spouse what I cannot do on my own.  We were designed to complete and help each other and together our brokenness becomes beautiful.